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Mon, 07 Jul 2025 13:08:57 -0700
marlon from private IP, post #19558824
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squatters... in MY house?
we get a water bill in the mail every month, it shows zero gallons used, always been that way too. if we had squatters, they'd be totally be using our water.
the place is in NC, a thousand miles away from me, i last saw the place in 2006, when my grandfather passed, he lived there. the place was in the family since
the 1970s, at least, once my grandparents tried to feel me out about leaving the place to me, when i was in college, they didn't say what they were talking
about, they were being nebulous about it, they could have been talking about anything, but i knew it was about the house, i did say i'd sell it if i had too,
they did not like that replay at all. but my mom & dad were last there back in 2018, right before my mom had her stroke, so since then i've been so worried
about it. Once i contacted the local police dept about checking the place out for me, but they never got back to me. my sister keeps in touch with relatives
in the area, but it's hard talking to my sister about anything, it's an instant screaming match & argument. she does not care about the place at all. but i'm
the one paying the taxes on it every year. wish i could rent a drone service to do a fly-by and peek in the windows, once we had a broken window. that whole
area is behind the times, so i doubt it. wish i could just go see the place for myself, but my sister has the key, and she won't give it to me, and of course i
need to go inside the house. scared to death i'll find a dead squatter in there. my mom needs to be watched everyday, so i can't go anywhere anyways. what
the hell do i do
Mon, 07 Jul 2025 19:06:06 -0700
zerosugar from private IP
Reply #12541093
wow this is a difficult one. seems like your sister won't give you the keys and she also won't leave you alone with your mom so she can go check on it. you need
to tell your sister you are a grown man not some reckless teenager. get the keys and go over the weekend while your sister watches your mom and come back.
otherwise, maybe contact a family member or something. this is a problem my mother and i had when caregiving for my grandmother. we had to go check on the home
in italy, but nobody to stay with my grandmother and getting my aunt or uncle (who live in alabama) to come to chicago was like pulling teeth. my uncle (mom's
older brother) came more than my aunt (mom's older sister), but again he did not care much for my grandmother. he ran around with a friend who is an old boomer
attorney pot head and oftentimes left my grandmother alone. when my grandmother was better, she always came with us and it was helpful to us as she knew more
about those scumbags in our village in italy who try to also steal property. they won't go in our home, but they will try to cut our land and then claim it
through their form of adverse possession. sadly, the last few years of my grandmother's life were hard as she had myasthenia gravis and was unable to travel.
she had lots of upper body strength still, but her mobility went down hill. she recovered a few times and got back to normal in her late 80s, but in your 90s,
it gets harder to come back. once a relative in nebraska came and helped with her. another time, her sister who lives in canada came. do you have any other
relatives who could help with your mother?
Mon, 07 Jul 2025 20:18:01 -0700
marlon from private IP
Reply #19061669
my sister butts heads with any family, & my dad's side are all there is. my mom's side all live in NC. but i'd rather live up north, i can't stand the heat.
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