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Sun, 09 Nov 2025 16:37:14 -0800 Andy from private IP, post #19766919 /all Andy's Ten Commandments for 20-something men From an X post I wrote in response to someone asking for advice: 1. Establish yourself in an area that you would want to be in long-term, such as a big city or suburb of a big city. Do not move to a fringe, outlying area "to gain experience for a few years and then move back," because there will be nobody interesting there and you will be lonely, and this may turn into a decade of your life during which you are very unhappy and alone. 2. Surround yourself with peers that you have a lot in common with, because there will always be opportunities that people can connect you with, and that you can connect other people in your network with. The talented loner is a stock character, but they do not have this network or the opportunities, and that limits them even if they are supremely competent. 3. Become a specialist in one thing that is in demand in the market that you don't mind doing for your day job, while retaining an avocation or fallback in at least one other area at a good level. That way you hedge against the risk of your job being eliminated, outsourced, etc. and you can potentially cover periods of unemployment with other things. Example, I am primarily a lawyer but I know web application programming at a good level. 4. Make sure your day job/career is something you actually don't mind doing and that you don't hate, because the avocation is unlikely to become your job and you will be depressed forever if you hate your job. 5. Make sure your day job is in a field where you are likely to meet interesting people of the opposite sex in the scope of employment. There is no point joining a field or employer dominated by your own sex because this takes up most of your time and causes you to not run into persons of the opposite sex in normal channels, thereby precluding dating options in your 20s. 6. Do not voluntarily join any employer that does not pay you enough to live comfortably in the area in which you live, or that does not at least give you a clear path to earn enough money. Struggling financially while killing yourself working is no way to live, much less be happy, which is required in order to meet a life partner. 7. Make time for things outside of work, both because it's a way to network and meet people, but also because it's healthy for your mental health. 8. Do not amass large amounts of debt with no way to pay it off. Spend reasonably responsibly and defer major purchases until you can afford them. 9. Keep a reasonably clean home. You never know when someone might see it, and if you have 1U rack servers running on your coffee table with cables everywhere or an otherwise messy abode, it can scare women off (true story). 10. If you are in your late 20s and have followed all of the above advice, and you are still single/ForeverAlone and/or unhappy, it is likely you need a mental health evaluation because there could be something wrong that other people are seeing and you are not. If you do resolve your mental health challenges, you will crush your 30s and no one will be able to take that victory away from you. #Hobbies #Romance Sun, 09 Nov 2025 16:40:00 -0800 phosita from private IP Reply #19012913 🤣 #9. /me looks nervously at the rackable-but-unracked equipment in arms' reach. Sun, 09 Nov 2025 17:10:42 -0800 marlon from private IP Reply #19026851 yeah i broke these rules Sun, 09 Nov 2025 17:12:42 -0800 Andy from private IP Reply #12110412 I broke all of these rules, that's how I learned them. Sun, 09 Nov 2025 18:04:40 -0800 marlon from private IP Reply #13663503 #9 was tough, it's been over twenty years since any visitor in my house. Sun, 09 Nov 2025 20:23:24 -0800 whiteguyinchina from private IP Reply #13208205 This is not a comandment but just a personal truism. If you do a job no one wants to do, you will always be employed. Sun, 09 Nov 2025 20:51:46 -0800 zerosugar from private IP Reply #12737737 👍 2. Surround yourself with peers that you have a lot in common with, because there will always be opportunities that people can connect you with, and that you can connect other people in your network with. The talented loner is a stock character, but they do not have this network or the opportunities, and that limits them even if they are supremely competent. Number 2 is very very accurate. Some people are just shy though and not good at networking. It definitely can be an impediment to success even if somebody is very very competent. For example, loners can lack references and sadly references are an archaic requirement for some positions. Even if you have great client references and took certain CLE courses. Mon, 10 Nov 2025 15:00:28 -0800 shithead from private IP Reply #17704085 I didn't do any of these shit's in my 20s, and just look at where it got me. Mon, 10 Nov 2025 16:09:32 -0800 marlon from private IP Reply #16080917 if i could suggest one rule, as i had surgery for a detached retina in my mid 20s, due to excessive masturbation. not sure how to word it better. https://slash.law/JDU/login/read.php?post=./posts/all/1745434067-147.txt Mon, 10 Nov 2025 16:12:20 -0800 zerosugar from private IP Reply #19055458 @marlonTest thats super crazy. Mon, 10 Nov 2025 22:33:34 -0800 marlon from private IP Reply #12646609 yeah, lucky i had a car accident days before i went to the eye doc, my car insurance paid for the two surgeries. had no health insurance. terrible times, my mom was crying. never told anyone it was from jerking it. Tue, 11 Nov 2025 06:08:44 -0800 shithead from private IP Reply #14132024 Abject kumqwattery. I'm a loner with references and a solid book of business.Replies require login.
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