Tue, 23 Dec 2025 02:17:20 -0800 Andy from private IP, post #16742799 /all Matchmaking This is back from my single days before meeting my wife, but more relevant now than ever. There should be an easier way to tell whether a person is single and actually looking to meet someone. It would save so much time and effort for the pursuing party if the pursued party could simply indicate whether they are actually looking, as opposed to merely attention-seeking or validation-seeking. This is most true for single women who have a habit of posting attractive selfies and Instagram stories. Often they seem to be just doing it for attention or validation of their looks rather than to actually meet someone. Same with women at parties-- they often just like going to parties. There should be a way for singles who are actually looking to signal that they want to meet someone in real life who is also actually looking. Hinge doesn't help because half the members are simply seeking validation, not a match. Startup idea: a signaling method for bona fide singles with intentionality to actually find each other. This is currently the realm of "elite matchmakers" whose solicitations I keep getting even though I'm married with a family. #Romance #Technology Tue, 23 Dec 2025 02:25:36 -0800 Andy from private IP Reply #19540419 This is also informed by the worst-ever New Year's Eve experience I have ever had. For NYE 2014-2015, I went to a "singles ball" at the Santa Clara Convention Center. I wish I had stayed home, because I have never been in a more depressing ballroom. Every person, both men and women, was an utterly hopeless ForeverAlone reject, many with completely dysfunctional social skills on top of being average at best. It made me feel even worse because it was so depressing. Attending that event didn't give me hope-- it made me realize that a lot of people are downright hopeless. If there were a way to advertise being single and looking without advertising being single and looking, that would be ideal. Tue, 23 Dec 2025 04:46:53 -0800 zerosugar from private IP Reply #18818642 Instagram isn’t what it used to be. Tired 2012-2018 era app. It was even dead pre covid by 2019. Many convention goers are awkward types. lol. I am not sure what people can do to meet somebody aside from joining groups based on common interests and connecting that way and let things develop naturally rather than groups whether online or in real life that are for dating. Dating apps and dating events can become meat markets or at worse, a place where the socially awkward gather as you mentioned with the con. I have never went to a singles con, but I get depressed sometimes when I go to other cons and see so many lonely people some of whom didn’t even take a shower. The state of humanity in 2025 is just sad. Tue, 23 Dec 2025 16:14:18 -0800 marlon from private IP Reply #10855669 wwonder i am utterly hopeless what does that mean for women? are they fat? Tue, 23 Dec 2025 16:48:11 -0800 Andy from private IP Reply #17723565 @marlonTest It wasn't so much "fat" as "not at all attractive." It was the absence of any quality that would be found attractive. Thus, a room full of rejects is essentially absent of anybody with a spark. That was the most depressing event I've been to in many years, before or since. Tue, 23 Dec 2025 18:13:50 -0800 marlon from private IP Reply #19372723 how did these losers hear about this event? how was it marketed? was it 100% rejects? never been to anything myself, but i have no delusions, as my standards are way too high, too many hang-ups. Wed, 24 Dec 2025 07:33:33 -0800 Andy from private IP Reply #16771926 The event was put on by several matchmakers in Silicon Valley. It was marketed by email to different groups as different things. Example, there were some couples there because they had been misled to believe it was a "young professionals" event or something. It was 99% rejects, and the few attractive people were in couples who were there, apparently by mistake. I will never forget the feeling of being a reject in a room full of rejects. I never have to go to another one of these again, thank god. But I never would. Wed, 24 Dec 2025 07:54:03 -0800 marlon from private IP Reply #13813940 u call urself a reject ? even then i don't think so, just trying to get what is known as a reject these days Wed, 24 Dec 2025 09:09:34 -0800 zerosugar from private IP Reply #13213484 @marlonTest i don't really like to use the word "reject" because all sorts of people get rejected at one time or another. all the same, if you want to see people who could be described as rejected or peculiar, see some of the attendees at anime conventions! anime is the one interest where it may be impossible to date somebody from the community. some of those attendees don't even bother taking a shower. also its not just some basement dwelling guy in his 30s, but even many of the women do not bother showering when they come! i know this accountant in his 40s who attends and this guy is nuts. he struggles to make basic conversation. he oddly wears the same exact cosplay to every convention and even travels to other states for cons, like they aren't that great! he claims to save money by not staying in hotels. he offered to drive me home so i didn't bother my mom, his car was filled with crap. i think he sleeps in the car at cons to save money. he had his toothbrush kit and all these clothes everywhere and snacks. Wed, 24 Dec 2025 09:10:43 -0800 zerosugar from private IP Reply #17606232 also its important to remember that even the biggest rejects have their match somewhere. lol. like fr there is somebody for everybody. Wed, 24 Dec 2025 09:16:42 -0800 zerosugar from private IP Reply #10670583 also just because one woman doesn't see you how you want to be seen, that doesn't mean her views are universal. Wed, 24 Dec 2025 09:22:01 -0800 marlon from private IP Reply #19025566 can't believe u got into a weirdo's car, u know about Ted Bundy Wed, 24 Dec 2025 09:47:18 -0800 whiteguyinchina from private IP Reply #15498333 Women on Instagram are looking to upgrade. There should be a category that says in a relationship but willing to upgrade.Replies require login.
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