Sun, 18 Jan 2026 16:47:46 -0800 Andy from private IP, post #19639772 /all Going from one child to two is harder than going from zero to one OK, it's been just under a week since my son arrived early last Monday morning. He is our second child. Contrary to what I was told by friends, my initial impression is that it's more difficult going from one to two kids than from zero to one. There are several reasons for this. First, with my wife focused on her recovery and the baby, I have to run around following my daughter everywhere and keeping her occupied. This has come to a head this weekend, during which I was intending to catch up on all the work I lost out on doing for the last two weeks, but instead I have gotten absolutely nothing done due to the constant interruptions. I also have to monitor the baby to make sure he is doing well, even though we have a special nanny/night nurse whose only job is to take care of him. My wife, my mother-in-law, and the special nanny are all watching the baby, so I am the one who has to take my daughter to appointments and things like that. We had a scare yesterday when my daughter reported sudden, severe abdominal pain and I took her to the emergency room. She was fine, but I still lost yet another day that I could not afford to lose. To top it all off, my daughter and I are still sick from a cold that we've had for the better part of the last two weeks during this incredibly stressful time. This is the most difficult two weeks of my life, no joke. I have not gotten any work done and have billed a pathetic number of hours in the first half of January. My colleagues at the firm are really helping out a lot, but the issue is that with me not billing hours, the firm's cash flow is severely impacted. I don't have a good solution here because this is the least bad it could be-- it could be a lot worse! But still, getting nothing done is a problem and I don't have much runway left if this continues. #LawFirm #Romance Sun, 18 Jan 2026 18:10:04 -0800 whiteguyinchina from private IP Reply #13084476 👍 This is true but only for the initial infancy. Like when you have one small kid and they get 100% attention, you dont go to 50% attention the moment the other one arrives. It just doesn't work that way. You have to give 100% attention to both. And besides your wife is still recovering. A family support network is crucial at those early months, even just so you can nap for a few hours. This may last like 2 years. For sure very stressful for the first 12 months. Like bad sleep for half a year. Take it easy and enjoy. My second kid I really dug into the infant care thing. I would put my son to sleep, I would do the diapers, I would get up at night. It was great to bond with an infant like that. So enjoy that time with your daughter. Consider it your chance to really live life and experience parenthood. Its a wonderful if tiring time. However after that the kids start to take care of themselves and to play together etc. So in that way after a time there are synergies. Sun, 18 Jan 2026 18:12:40 -0800 whiteguyinchina from private IP Reply #11218952 Don't fret over work tho. Just survive at this point. If one thing has to crash, let it be your work. You will rebound. Don't forget your health scare either. You need to be stable because that whole family is riding on you. You can't afford to be sick. I wouldn't even drink if I were you. Just survive. Amd enjoy. Sun, 18 Jan 2026 22:32:36 -0800 phosita from private IP Reply #11118337 👍 I think the man's sufficiently scared off of pentuple vodkas before flying, at least. Sun, 18 Jan 2026 23:20:35 -0800 whiteguyinchina from private IP Reply #16565789 👍 I can see him woe is me I deserve a few vodkas at some MLK day office party and ending up in emergency room totally fucking up his whole world. I say that, because I can see myself doing that too. In fact minus emergency room, I made some bad decisions circa that time. Because everyone ignores him now and no one cares about his problems. Even though his problems have multiplied. I would also advise AGAINST sharing any work related problems with the missus since her argument will be "what the f do you want me to do about it?" The biological great irony is, men drop testosterone production significantly post partum as an evolutionary protection so they dont eat their young I guess. So he will become less manly in the near months. Yet his balls are exactly what is needed to carry his family through this beautiful time. Mon, 19 Jan 2026 08:48:34 -0800 Andy from private IP Reply #15517012 I'm definitely not going to do sextuple vodka sodas ever again, under any circumstances. The craziest part of that is that I wasn't even feeling drunk. I think my body was so not used to processing vodka that it just crashed on the airplane. I'm sticking with beer at the moment, and there's no issue with that even if I drink a lot of beer, which I like to do. I can't screw this up, so I'm monitoring my own health and mental health closely. The law firm is a machine that I have to keep running in order to earn money to support my family, so this last three weeks have been dangerous territory with only the other attorneys billing hours. The next three months are going to be exceptionally difficult, and I just hope my wife recovers in time for the work commitments I have in March, April, and May. Mon, 19 Jan 2026 12:30:44 -0800 marlon from private IP Reply #11786188 hang tough bro Mon, 19 Jan 2026 17:55:55 -0800 zerosugar from private IP Reply #11823089 👍 You are super blessed you have supportive in-laws and the resources to pay for help!Replies require login.
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