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Sat, 07 Feb 2026 06:48:51 -0800
Andy from private IP, post #16579416
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Research project on online dating
Since I've used my andrewwatters.com email since 2004, I have emails going back to 2004 all in one place. From 2004 to 2021, I was an active online dater who
was occasionally in relationships. Just for the hell of it, it occurred to me to do a longitudinal study of my online dating experience over this 17-year
period and plot the results somehow. For example, I could do a graphic of how many dates I went on and the reasons either party did not continue, or did.
I randomly went in my email from Fall 2010 and saw messages with matches that I don't even remember. I googled one of them and she ended up getting her Ph.D.
and is now a college professor. She was super cool and also attractive-- I don't know what happened with that one. I think it was that she was in Sacramento
and I didn't want to go that far away. I'm not complaining, because it turned out well for me, but I had to wait another 11 years after that potential who
probably would have been a great match for me.
It's hard to google them with just their first name and sometimes their phone number, but it does work. I really wanted to find this one match who was awesome
except three and a half years older than me. She was perfect, but I was 30 and would have had to immediately start a family. I couldn't have afforded to start
a family back then in early 2011 when I was an economic failure. I do still wish I had not rejected her so quickly. I can't find her no matter how hard I
google, even with her name, phone number, and description of what she does. She probably got married and dropped off the face of the Earth to have her family,
like many attractive women do.
What should I include in the study?
#Romance #Technology
Sat, 07 Feb 2026 07:28:09 -0800
Andy from private IP
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BTW I found the one I was looking for. There is now a single hit in the white pages under her phone number, and it shows the state she is currently in (she
kept her phone number this whole time!). I cross referenced this with state licensing records for her profession and found the only woman with this name who is
dual-licensed in these two states, and currently in the state where the phone number is reportedly located. It's her! She has zero internet footprint except
for a LinkedIn that doesn't even have her photo. I can't believe I was able to do this-- I really am that good. I'm going to write her an email about this
research project and see whether she responds.
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